And that’s fine.
I have always felt like I don’t have many friends. I’ve never been popular, I’ve never been one of the people who knows everyone.
I just felt bad for not having as many friends as other people.
However, as I’ve reached the ripe old age of almost 21 (lets take note of the sarcasm pls) I’ve come to realise that people will come and go from your life.
Some will grow apart from you, some will move away and some, you will realise, were a terrible mistake in the first place. And, that’s also fine.
Yep, it is difficult and hard to keep hold of friends, but the ones who matter to you will constantly stay around for you. The ones who really want to know you, or want to stay friends, will stay around as friends.
I’ve had way too many toxic friendships to count and I’ve definitely learned from this. You’re not supposed to have 100 friends… I mean, I’d call those acquaintances.
Let’s make this article slightly accurate and define friendship.
The OED defines a friend as “A person with whom one has developed a close and informal relationship of mutual trust and intimacy; (more generally) a close acquaintance. Often with adjective indicating the closeness of the relationship, as best, good, close”.
See the important parts of that? Close, informal, trust and intimate.
That’s at least four things that make someone a friend.
Now, track back to when you were in school… maybe you’re in secondary school right now and you’re weighing up friends. Think of those 4 words and see who pops into your head… I bet it won’t be many.
People will constantly leave your life because they’re not made to stick around, they’re just passing through- they’re acquaintances.
They meant a laugh, maybe a hug, maybe a mutual love of something for a short while, but now they have moved onto other things.
Most of the time, the people who leave will hold good memories with you, but they will move onto find their own friends.
People come and they go, but it doesn’t mean you have to feel bad about it.
After all, they’re just…
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