Hello lovely friends,
I wanted to tackle something today that I’m thinking about, and dealing with for quite a while now. It is about being honest with yourself, those around you and everyone who means something to you.
I have always been someone who is open about things, and I attempt to be as truthful as I can be. Even if it hurts people, or I hurt myself in the process. I am not a fan of people who blatantly lie to just get by in life. I’m not here though to drop any tea or shade; not today.
I want to talk about how being honest with yourself can completely change the way you see life, and the way you deal with things.
The last couple of months for me have been extremely difficult, for a variety of reasons, but after recent events I was totally lost with what to do. I had no idea of where I was meant to go and what I was meant to do. Then I had this massive realisation that I had to be honest with myself.
I had to be honest about where I was, what I was feeling, what was happening in my life- I had to stop pretending that things weren’t happening, because they were.
How are you supposed to grow or glow up when you’re looking at the past? Or you’re pissed off at things that happened? You have to be honest with yourself. You have to tell yourself that honestly, what you thought would happen, won’t happen, but that’s fine. You have to tell yourself that you are not okay, and that’s okay.
I spent a lot of time trying to be someone who I absolutely was not, all because I wanted to impress people. That’s not me (resist temptation please). I am not what I thought I was, I was not being honest with myself.
Ever since I have learned that honesty, and letting go of things is the way to move forward, I feel like I have massively moved leaps and bounds. I feel a massive sense of relief when I am honest with myself, now. It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be angry, but be honest with yourself as to why you are feeling this way.
Being honest is the best thing I have ever done. I am learning that if things aren’t to be, then they will not be. You cannot live in denial for your whole life about what kind of person you are. Once you are honest with yourself, everything else falls into line.
In an age of social media, and everything on the internet, it is really easy to be dishonest with yourself. You can easily pretend that everything is fine and you can fake it until you make it- something I have been doing a lot of on my Instagram recently. I have been faking this fine, and self confident attitude, when really I have been critically knocked by recent events. I have been hurt, I have been diminished, but I am still here.
It is only when I look back on recent Instagram posts, and tweets, that I realise I have denied that bad things ever happened. I have pretended I am perfectly fine, when in fact, I’m not. That’s why being honest with yourself is so important,
Dishonesty leads to bottling your problems, and never discussing them- a technique that is tried and proved a dangerous road to go down. I’ve talked about this before, but honesty is the only way we can all get along in this world. Being honest about your problems, the hurdles you are facing and the road you are going down, can only bring you good things.
There’s a reason so many people appreciate honesty from each other- we’re also trying to look for honesty in ourselves.